Recently, my friend asked about my affairs in my life. I said I never tried them out. It is a truth but, I accept that I have some tendencies. I felt it like just attractions and I used to pretend like I am not interested in it. But, now I believe that I have no problem with revealing it as nothing is wrong in that tendency. Falling in love is just a human nature. Many organisms in this world used to fall in love and lead a successful life. We are not the only animals who used to try something different to attract the opposite sex just for creating an impression!
Brain is the only thing which makes humans different and it created some sort of creative artificiality in many things in our lives. Just as we use social networks and internet for flirting. Just now, I saw an advertisement in facebook about Indian matchmakers. I do not trust these sort of advertisements as it exploits our interests. Anyone can cheat if they have a fake ID and a creative mind! Online world is a place where you can easily create an exhibition of your positive part. In the case of social networking, you can upload any photo in your profile and unfortunately, a nice photo of a female celebrity and name of a girl can attract a lot of boys.! But, what is their real intention? I really cannot understand. I cannot understand why there are advertisements to love someone! I accept that it is giving some opportunities but, does it makes any better sense?
If I starts flirting, I will not show my negative part to anyone. I may say that I am the only man who is perfect in all ways. To be frank, it is absolutely wrong.Nothing is perfect in this world...One day or another, I am going to reveal my real nature and this is the reason why I do not trust the expression "Love at first sight!". If I marry someone, we are supposed to live together forever. So, the external view of a person is not what I really want to love. I support Shakespeare's opinion about this "marrying a girl for her beauty is just like buying a house for it's paint" (I am not sure whether it was Shakespeare who expressed something like this.I got this as a message from my friend). Beauty will fade by ages and I have to love my partner even if her beauty dies.
I have heard about some people who used to propose a lot of girls in sake of a positive reply from any of them. My opinion about these kinds of activities is that you are destroying the reasons to love you. I think an intelligent girl will not accept any of those applications. It looks like love is just a mutual attraction. I do not know whether it is a reality or not but, I do not like to accept it. We used to see pairs of birds and many other animals who used to lead a life like a family (just like father, mother and children). Just beyond an attraction, there is something in it.
I've heard a lot of movie dialogues which says "I will die for you". In my case, if a girl asks me to prove it, I am not going to die to prove that I love her.I am supposed to survive even if she was not born. It is just like begging for love. I will not do it. I am not compelling anyone to love me. I've seen a lot of scenes in movies and advertisements(eg: some mobile phone companies) about people who break up because of simple reasons. If lovers break up for simple reasons like getting late for a meeting, a day without a call etc. I prefer them to break up rather than being a slave to your lover. In my view, there is no need of a master-slave relation in my life. I do not live a life just to love a girl.
I thought it is inappropriate to discuss something like this in this blog. What made me think is my responsibilities. As I said before, brain is the only difference which makes humans and animals different. Basically, majority of our people are religious and I strongly believe that human minds created religions. So being a social animal living in a society I have some responsibilities. Even though inter-caste marriages are increasing now-a-days, we still have some resistive tendency against it. Even if I am not religious, how can I disappoint my religious family? The shade of such thoughts are still in my mind...I've searched in orkut for a community of my caste and I visited a lot of profiles of girls just to make myself safe!!
I feel like this is not the way I should express my thoughts. Some truths are not expected to be revealed like this.This is how I see this subject and may be, everything I write here is total rubbish. But, it doesn't matter. Just fall in love and break a leg:)!!(wikipedia says that the expression "break a leg" also have a meaning of "Good Luck". READ HERE)
Faithfully
Raghu.
Salyut mate....
ReplyDeleteNicely written and straightforward
I agree with you mostly....
People do thing that only trivialize love ...
@tarun
ReplyDeletethank you very much for your comment
you said you mostly agree with me! i would like to know where you disagree.
The Caste and Religious stuff never did that...:) and never give two hoots to this
ReplyDelete@tarun
ReplyDeleteI guess it depends upon views of the people.
flirtation is largely a harmful affair, it s when people take it beyond boundaries,is when it becomes ugly.
ReplyDeletesubtlety in our society is hardly ever understood or valued..
good post.
@gyanban
ReplyDeletethanks for the comment
Nice one man...Echoed my feelings for the most part... As usual,I will continue reading...
ReplyDeletenice post. I like to read frank point of views and opinions. Love just for the SAKE of getting a gf/bf isn't a good enough reason.
ReplyDeleteAnd yeah, even I won't die to prove my love for my beau. I prefer living and loving :)
Thanks for your comment on my post!
@IIM ka Sarkari Babu
ReplyDeleteNice to know that I echoed your feelings also!!
@smitzy
thanks for the comment
gud language da... everyone could get ur views very easily.. nd u re too frank n ur words.. go on mann... u hve.. no v hve smethng different to strike ds soceity so hard..!!
ReplyDeletesincerely..
yuvan..
@The Knight
ReplyDeleteI have no intention to strike the society hard. Especially with this subject!!
Bt when u post smethng n a public site,especially abt public matterz, der will b chances 4 ur readers to accept or reject ur views and smetyms u will b a cause 4 dem to change deir lyfstyle.. f t happenzz, den u're really honoured.. coz..sme words r more sharper dan any sword edge...!!
ReplyDelete@ The Knight
ReplyDeletePlease save me from being responsible for misguiding you..
Good summation of thoughts...Well written and expressed straight forwardly :)
ReplyDelete@ sunil
ReplyDeletethanks for the comment.
Nicely written and loved reading it.
ReplyDeleteNice writing.. Even though points were obvious, it was good reading them.
ReplyDeleteSimple style of your writing and ample length is making it good.
Hey dude, that really was a nice post, straight forward, honest, frank, what ever you call it, it is just beautifully written!
ReplyDeleteI do approve with you, point by point, word by word!
malayali aanalle? nice to see this writing mate :)
A Journey to the Unknown Spaces!
@ Rakesh
ReplyDeleteThank you very much for your comment.
@Quake Boy
Its really nice to hear something like this from you..My language is simple because that is what I'm capable of. I've never been a good reader of books and used to be a below average student in english as well. I'm just showing my standard. Some of my friends used to advice me not to write lengthy posts but, to be honest, I got lot more than what I've written here and I do not care how lengthy my posts are as far as I believe that it is relevant to write it here.
@ Naveen
I never meant anything when I named this blog 'revealing the truth' but, today I realize that it can be viewed as an honest view to some specific subjects. To be completely honest, I am confident enough to say that everything I have written in this post is rubbish because even I do not support some of the points I've written before. A post with similar subject is in my blogger draft and I think I'm going to post it some day.
"malayali thanne aanu mashe!! Thrissur aanu naadu"..
I went through your blog too and its nice.
Thanks for finding some time to post a comment here.
Dude... When you say 'love', everything is 'love'. According to me, 'Flirting' too comes under 'love'. Because, it's an act done for some sort of satisfaction; physical, mental, or anything.. blah blah... The one who flirts with another is in need of some sort of 'love'. As such, to flirt is to love...
ReplyDeleteIf you want to really distinguish, then you must say, 'real love', 'true love' etc etc.... But i dont think true or real love still exists between lovers nowadays! I accept that such love is not yet 'extinct', but 'endangered' !
And regarding 'dying for love' thing, it could be a poetic kind of expression, not merely literal... i am not sure though. I recommend not to take such trivial quotes for analysis dude..
Dont ask me what's my point and all.. I just scribbled here what i felt in random after reading your writing... Zigzag...
Nice to read your writing anyways,, Keep writing.. Cheers
@lukhman
ReplyDeleteAbout 'die for love', i got no idea of what i really meant at that time(too honest).Probably, I will not use that expression if I am writing this post today. But, I've seen some people who used to get so tensed when a girl rejects his proposal. I have heard of people who used to talk about suicide when their love fails. I just wanted to inspire them. Nothing intentional friend!!!!
thanks for your inspiration!!
sincerely,
Raghu
Well, I agree that falling in love is just a human nature its mostly people says its some kind of flirting but definitely its a human attractions too.
ReplyDeleteisey
@ Pheromone(would like to know your exact name!)
ReplyDeletethanks
That was a honest opinion. Liked the way it is worded. Nice. Keep writing. I will keep reading. :)
ReplyDelete@Spicy Sweet
ReplyDeleteThanks for showing your interest in my blog. Thanks for motivating me by saying that you will be here to read and always feel free to comment.