The true inspirer!

I'm the most important part of my life for sure. I always have something to say when it comes to the most complex subject of my life :'me'. But, I am a victim of a lot of criticisms and analysis for which, I always had a response of an irregular smile( Just a reflex action to show that 'I am not entertained!'). Some people believe that  I am living a very miserable life of 'being pathetic and perfect'. At present, I am free to do a lot of things in my life. I am not independent, but I can decide a lot of things that my father wouldn't interfere. But, I wouldn't do all the things that I can do as I define my perimeters and boundaries of my life. I have always been questioned for the things I didn't do in my life, but none of those questions had provoked me to change what I really stand for. 

In many occasions, I was put aside for the choices I made in my life. I never regretted for any of those occasions and I am well trained to accept that it is just the way I am. I do not know how many times I've heard of a question 'Who are you afraid of? No one will tell anything to anyone' . I smiled at them, but that is not enough. I have an answer for that question. 'I am not afraid of anyone, but I have a person to whom I need to justify and it is myself. If you can keep hiding it from him, I would do whatever you want to do in my life'. I am the best teacher of my life and I enjoy doing everything my way even if it may not sound perfect to others. I was criticized by my mother when she noticed that I am not engaged in any art or creativity, I was criticized by some of my friends as I never had a good socializing capabilities, I was criticized for not showing some courage to  make 'a cheap comment' on a girl. I always had some ideologies in my life that are defined according to the needs of the situation. I do what I feel like I am doing. But, I really enjoy getting criticized for something. 

I have done a lot of things in my life by following other's path. But, I always knew that their paths were uncomfortable for me.I am pretty sure that many of those criticizers would understand the reason for being me, if they had an opportunity to have my brain and experiences of life. I do what I really wanted to do in my life and I really like to have a respectable, humble life. I may not have a good reason to look into your definitions as I have given enough thoughts on how my life should be. It is not difficult to convince me with your ideologies, but they are supposed have some reason other than 'This is what everybody does!'. Because, that is the most stupid reason I've ever heard in my life especially when it comes in ideologies and role-models of my life. It is just like 'I like Anna Hazare because the word 'Anna' sounds funny to me' which is quite irrelevant though. I see and analyze things and I do believe that the real and genuine part of life is not in howmany years I lived or the number of experiences or sufferings I happened to face, but  it is all about what you really find worthy of noting, which could change your life. You can always remain the same even if you live a life of 100 years. I choose not to be blind by shutting by eyes and it doesn't look like a mistake!!!

I value a lot of things in my life. Sometimes, those invaluable things of my life might look like a very simple thing in other's life. I always want to be unique in my life and whenever I face a criticism,which could never ring a bell in my mind, I am at an extreme point of self-respect in my life. No matter what other's believe, I really like being me and it is not going to change if I remain in my perimeter and boundaries. This is the true inspiration of my life. To be a respectable man, I am supposed to do something respectable!!!

Sincerely,

Raghu

An illusion of safety!

Recently, I heard about a wonderful thing about my homeland. Kerala is a place where there are a lot of boundaries. One of my friend said that it is a place where people care for a lot of walls. Just because we just care for the safety of our belongings.I do not know how far your belongings are safe with you if you are under an attack of some professional thieves. We know that if someone who is so determined to take something from you by force, our best safety measures may not be good enough to defend it. But, we used to create an illusion of safety around us so that we could live peacefully.

Nothing is safe in this world and we all know it. It is the reason why insurance companies still exists in this world. But, we used to try to be safer. We used to invent some mechanisms which can assure better safety. Consider a news about a car driver who got stuck in a car by malfunctioning of its automated door locking facility followed by a fire due to short circuit. He was dead because of the car's safety measures!! I think we should have an insurance for our "luck" too.. Luck is a great way beyond your assumptions. Life is always uncertain even if we got some good plans and the reason for this uncertainty is "Not everything goes according to our plans". There is a risk factor in every job in this world.

We can neglect everything except life insurance. I noticed some people who used to find reasons to avoid using helmets during a bike ride while the same people used to have a protective covering for their mobile phones along with an extra tag!! If there is a facility to insure your mobile phones, they may replace your damaged or lost mobile phone with a new one. But, none of our life insurance companies can offer you a replacement to your life. They can help your family by some money but, there are some things money can't buy(Courtesy to mastercard!!:)).

I had a friend before, who was a rash driver. I remember the day on which me and my friend took his bike to my college which is nearly 140 kms away from our native. He was just recovered from an accident at that time and I just wondered about his ability to take sensible decisions while he drives. I was totally impressed by the way he drives. Later, when I took my bike to college, I asked for his company!! It was a disaster. I never knew that my old Kawasaki 4S Champ could reach upto 90kmph. I nearly got killed at least half a dozen times at that single journey. Later, within few months that friend of mine passed away in a bike accident and that was the most dreadful experience of my life. It was a sudden realization of a fact, many of us including me were riding bikes just as we play a video game. There is a difference, in the game of reality, there is no "reset button".

There are laws which compels bike riders to wear helmets but, I still can't understand the secret behind the law which compels to wear helmets only for the driver of the bike. Does it really mean that the unlucky person(maybe an always unlucky person!), who sits in the back seat deserves to die? Or is this law just meant to identify the driver which created the accident?? Nothing makes sense to me except corruption!! In my case, the law about helmets can't even guarantee an illusion of safety in driving bikes.. But, it creates some illusion of safety in getting rid of traffic police!!I remember an advice from my cousin at this situation, "Be alert as if none other than you knows how to drive a vehicle on this road!"

There are a lot of things which deserves a lot more than what we do to make them safe and I feels like I need not criticize them all. In my view, never be afraid of any such unsafe situations But, we have to be alert of possibilities!

Faithfully

Raghu.

The idiotic exhibitions!

I believe that "we are what we exhibit!". I believe so, because I felt that exhibition is responsible for the views about a person in the society. Every leaders, every workers, every student and everyone who believes that they have gained something in life is created because of the exhibition they have done. Everyone do different things and get noticed in their respective manner and they are qualified to believe what they are.! This is exhibition! They are the result of what they exhibit. But, now I am not thinking about this exhibitions. I really wanted to tell something about an another section of exhibitions.

How many brave people are there in our country? If we just make a rough calculation, the number will not be a small one. I am sure..! Because we are really brave. I have seen many people who do stunts on bikes in public roads. I have seen some of my college students used to do stunts on their bikes..I just asked one of them why they are doing like this. What if you fail and result in an accident? The guy just told me that he does this just because of his bravery and confidence, and I believe that the purpose is to get noticed in public! I just thought about my condition. If I am doing(Normally, I will not) like this what will be my thoughts. Really, I should have a tendency to do the same as him, But, for what reason? I do not know.! I would like to do it safer, because if I fails the whole scene changes. If I can do a stunt I may see some eyes of excitement but, if I can't the same eyes will give me sympathy and laughter to themselves. You may say that I should do this only if I am good enough to do the stunt. But what is the extend of the condition good enough? It is my own belief! But, Nothing in this world works as you expect and I believe that we should not make a decision to go for stupidities like this.

The usual practice of our society is to copy what is new and imported. Imported goods have a great market in our society and also the funniest thing is that even civilizations are imported. A person in a cold country needs more clothing! So, the countries like Britain invented suits with ties to survive in the cold. And this dress code is a trade mark for executives in India. So, some Indians are still sweating inside this dress even in the comparative cold season in India. Do we need to do this? I think we need not import such a practice over here. It is stupidity! We do have our own dresses which is good for our climate. We should have promoted that thing instead.

I cannot understand what is the secret behind our fashion concept! I can narrate some latest fashion. Let's start with hair, probably the hair will look like someone who have touched an 11KV electric line with bare hands(Every single hair will point upward). Shirts commonly have misplaced stitches and four letter words which cannot be told publicly. Trousers will be worn and will have colours of mud everywhere.In short we look like a villain. And I really do not like to say about fashion of girls. Because it is too interesting! I wonder why we got such a fashion. Why do we like something which is a whole mess of neatness. I think fashion reflects our likes because we are in a condition where we likes villains more than heroes. We like to live in liberty and under our own wish. Unfortunately, liberty lacks discipline. And this fashion shows us the lack of discipline or tendencies to become undisciplined. But I really cannot understand why we follow such a way of non sense while we used to have an option of disciplined and neat ways.

I felt in several situations that we used to follow what others are doing even though it is wrong. But, I think a small push is required to change the whole concept. I may have the tendency to ride bike faster, I may have the tendency to wear stupid clothes, I may be a man with imported civilizations but, I believe the reason why I am so is that 'everyone used to do the same, then why don't I?'. I used to express what I do not do and what I feel which should not be in the way that is! I knew that if I feel something is wrong I need not watch others to take my decision. I am ready for a change if the world is changing because I reached here just because of the world's change. This is my belief and I strongly believe that these are idiotic and I just cannot find a good reason to be like this!But, I am doing the same.!



"faithfully"


Raghu.